Online Dating: Is There A Stigma Anymore?
The above logos are for, obviously – jdate.com, okcupid.com, singlesaroundme.com, and match.com. Cards on the table – I have, in the past, signed for an account with JDate (wonder if it’s still there), have an account with Singles Around Me but never check it…there was a ‘free for life’ offer on the BlackBerry app so I figured I may as well download it, have heard a lot of good things from my friends (male & female) about OK Cupid, and Match.com is one of the sites that just came to mind (I suppose I just proved their advertising/branding worked). In fact, one of my friends actually met his now wife on JDate…I wouldn’t mention this if they hadn’t mentioned it themselves at their wedding.
But is there a stigma anymore to online dating? Ted, a character on ‘How I Met Your Mother,’ protests in an October 2007 episode that, “there’s no stigma anymore!’ To which his friends reply that they think quite the opposite. You can see the clip below but I recommend watching the full thing for Neil Patrick Harris‘ character Barney explaining the Hot Crazy Scale which is absolutely hilarious.
As you all already know, since my Valentine’s Day post of this past year, that I do believe in true love and there is someone out there for me who I will just naturally click with and when I meet that person I’ll just ‘know.’ The hard thing is that I know a person in my life right now who I would really like to go out with but even after I made my thoughts on the matter clear I have yet to hear a definitive answer one way or the other from this person. Is just trying to move on and get my mind clear of thinking of this person in that way – doubtful as I am about it happening in the near future – the ‘romantic’ thing to do? Clearly I need to watch more chick-flicks and rom-coms to make a decision here, haha.
I think I would definitely prefer meeting a girl online as opposed to meeting a girl in a bar. Especially as, to me, the latter seem somewhat, I dunno, random and seedy. Maybe I should start doing my laundry in a public laundromat like the guy in the movie 40 Days and 40 Nights…it worked out well for him! Haha.
I think there is a huge social aspect to the stigma because if a ton of my friends and peers are using these online dating sites then in my particular social circle there really is no stigma anymore…is there? Let me know what you think. Obviously, I am not expecting my readers to all know my social circle because that would be a little weird but what’s it like in your social circle? Is there a stigma anymore to online dating?